I was never that person who was convinced that someday they would get married. I did not have my wedding planned out before I met Stephen. I always thought, “well, maybe I’ll get married…OR I’ll travel and volunteer in orphanages all over the world.” When I considered my vocation, it was steeped deeply in service and the importance of education for those who need it most. My vocation has indeed changed. My vocation is to be married and be a wife to the most bomb diggity guy I have ever met. I have realized that I am called to be married and foster an awesome love that is a witness to the love that God has for all of us.
But wait…what about all my other dreams? The sweet part about it all is that although my perspective is shifting, my passions and calling are still leading me in the direction I always wanted to go. The foolish and naive younger me always told myself and others that I would never change. ”Don’t let me stop going out,” “If I say I don’t want to go out to the bar…make me!” ”Don’t worry, being in a relationship wont change me, I promise!” I have changed. I recently taught my students a lesson about the Dark Ages in Ancient Greece and was trying to think of a meaningful way to describe how the Dorians influenced Greek culture so greatly by being illiterate. I explained that since the Dorians couldn’t read or write, the had other focuses in their lives. Its not that they didn’t like reading and writing, per say. It is that they had other things that they were thinking about and moving toward. That’s kind of how I look at the way that I have changed. I am literally making a new family. That’s a lot of work!
So, its true, really true that I am getting married. In a month to be exact! The marriage preparation journey has been one of the most meaningful paths of my life thus far. I have learned some real big lessons.
1. Marriage is beautiful and sacred. It should not be entered lightly or without deep regard for its implications.
2. Being with someone for the rest of your life is a LONG time. Make sure its someone you can be 100% self expressed with. Someone who follows their own calling and encourages you to follow your own.
Over the past three months; planning a wedding and doing my student teaching, I have been very present to the fact that I am going in a distinct direction. In fact, I have been going in this direction for a long time now. The difference between now and two years ago is that I have a partner in crime. In thirty-one short days my NAME will change. I have always had one name and now I’m getting a new one. My name will literally correspond with a Dr. Seuss book. Worth it.